Dear Dave, I’ve been married for some time now and we still haven’t had any issues. We’ve been told all is well but we’re unable to conceive a child and it’s causing so much stress on my wife.
Her stress made me lose interest in her to the point of finding myself in the arms of another woman. The other woman got pregnant for me and we have a four month baby girl together. The other lady doesn’t want a committed relationship. She wanted a ‘sperm donor’ to have a child with.
She’s financially independent and can raise the child without me, but I want to be a part of my baby’s life. So I will be contributing financially to its upkeep. I will also want to be a part of its life but without my wife’s knowledge.
I love my wife, believe it or not and I am very understanding of our plight. We are doing everything to have a baby of our own.
Keeping this one secret from her doesn’t make me bad, or? If I am to tell her, she will give up on us totally and I don’t want that.
I have come to terms with my baby-mama not to be sexually involved with her again.
And she’s agreed to date someone else in a few years. I feel bad about the secret but I am excited about my baby girl.
Does that make me selfish?
