Marriage is a good thing you know? It’s an institution I would wish for everyone, especially women, to experience. I managed to do three years of it before walking out of one.
Anytime I read from your wall, I feel for most of the people behind the stories. I had my fair share of tears and neglect. I used to be so alone, I wondered what had or could have changed that quickly. But I also remember the smiles, during our honeymoon stages. My ex-husband might have been a liar and a cheat, however, I still feel, inside that unfaithfulness and lies – was once the ‘good’ man I agreed to marry.
I am in my second marriage now, and I have clocked six years already. My husband’s policy is this, ‘if your wife needs you to be loyal and faithful to only her, you do not let her down. Because when you also tend to need her to be there for you – in whichever capacity, and she is nowhere to be found, you will definitely know how she felt when you let her down.’
My husband is NOT perfect ooo, but Dave, I got the right man after my own heart in this second world War. ? I had a child when I met him. He was childless and had never been married. I was 35. He was 38.
It was through this second marriage that I realized, it’s okay for a man to be home right after work to be with his wife. He actually wanted to be home for my son. We hadn’t had our own kids then. He was home for us. It was through this marriage that I also learnt that it’s very okay for a man to help his wife with house chores. That, it’s okay for a man to give his wife a weekend off, so she can rest while he helps out.
I am not stressed in this marriage, Dave. I have a helpmate who actually sees me. I would want to believe I am loved greatly because his presence in my life is so evident. The respect this man gives and shows to me is unimaginable.
To be frank with you, sometimes, I even wish he wouldn’t tell me, “I love you, babe” because his actions show love better than in words. I am reminded every day of his love and contentment with me. In the past, I used to believe my ex’s absence was eventually going to sharpen the love, but this new husband’s presence is strengthening love.
He doesn’t buy me things or take me out to expensive places or even shows me off on social media. We rather buy him things. Lol! I mean, we would be at the mall, and I will see something, or the kids will see something that we all would agree would look good on him. He’s so good to us, we want to be good to him.
Sex is great with him. He makes time to please me. I make time to please him. We make time to please ourselves. It’s like, our best sex ever during sex. We commit to it so much that, we do it right every session. We are very adventurous, and silly when it’s that time of the day. Extremely naughty and crazy. He explores me to the nonsense degree. And I spoil him to the nonsense degree.
Can you believe, even at home, he wears his best perfume, and clean boxers or shorts just to woo me? He shaves just to attract me.
Sometimes, we are at home doing nothing, and he would go bath and wear his designer jeans or shirt, just to keep me company in the kitchen. I have never met this kind of freshness before. I mean, his conscious attempts to attract my attention.
And the fact that he’s FINEEEEEEEEEEE attache’???????.
