I went through a bitter divorce with my ex because she asked that our matrimonial home be sold. I, however, realized later that she had put up a house and had a plot of land directly opposite our home without my knowledge. She moved out and is with another man.
The divorce process lasted for six (6) years.
Two years into the divorce, I met my current partner. She has a child from her former relationship. Because of the divorce hadn’t been finalized, we couldn’t marry. In the process, my two children from my first marriage decided they’d come to stay with me. This compelled my partner to move in, in order to help, which I’m very grateful.
The divorce finalized in January 2017, and so we began to plan our marriage. We have one child, but my partner kept changing how she wanted the marriage. From engagement only, she added a church blessing and a grand lunch.
Nothing I say pleases her to cut down on how she wants the marriage. At a point, the budget was about Ghs 50k. We had to then go through a six- month counselling.
Sadly when we were set I lost a brother, sister, one of my daughter’s and my Auntie (all within two years).
These happenings led to financial constraints and delayed the marriage. Sadly, now that we are set, I discovered my partner has been cheating on me. I found out on her birthday, but stood strong and forgave her. We are still together.
The problem now is, as a result of what happened I have lost trust in her, and so I said, no more ordinance marriage, but only engagement.
She’s not pleased because she says she wants security in the marriage but I’m also scared after the ordinance if she goes back to cheat it will create problems for me. I’m ready and set now but she’s not happy to do engagement only.
