I am at a point of getting fed up with my husband’s attitude towards me. The right side of his body is paralyzed; from the arm to the leg. Doctors assured us of his healing process in months.
They told us in July this year, that he may start making little progress in movements after two or three months. We are in the month of December, and he’s still the same.
We are doing everything possible to revive his dead side, however, his frustrations are being extended to me.
The things my husband can say to me when I get home late from work. Dave, I am the one doing everything in the house. I cook and leave his meals for him before leaving the house for work. I am taking care of two kids who are under 10 years old.
I bathe and clean after him. House chores is on me, paying of bills, etc. Yet my husband can look at my face and suggest I don’t spend enough time around him. His mother visited, and he was telling her I am always out.
That, I just cook and leave the food on the dining table. He practically begged his mother to move in with us to take care of him, since according to him, I am hardly home.
I am getting tired! I feel he is very ungrateful to be disrespecting my effort to keep the home running. Not to compare him to when he was active, but my husband hardly spent time with the family. Work always kept him busy and out.
When I used to complain about his absence, he tagged me a ‘nag’ and too ‘needy’ of him. Now that I am the one taking care of everything, he is complaining.
What hurts me is how he can badmouth me to his mother and siblings on phone. I will be buying him GHs 40 worth of airtime everyday, and all he uses the credits to do is to complain about me to his people.
Dave, I want to seize his phone as punishment.
I want to start being harsh on him for sometime. Not necessarily controlling, but putting him in check till he stops being too negative at home. Is this a good idea? And how would it impact a man should he gain back his movement?
I try to be a good wife, Dave. I am just dealing with so much right now, I cannot accommodate his daily tantrums
