My sister-in-law has been living in our home for six months with her two sons. Her husband chased her and the kids out, but I don’t know why. Even my husband won’t tell me. I suspect he’s protecting her because she’s his sister, and that has created constant tension for me. I don’t want her around. She carries everything that happens in the house outside, and somehow my mother-in-law ends up calling me to say all sorts of things.
Her children are not well trained, and they are influencing mine. Anytime I complain, my husband gets angry. She herself is very relaxed. She doesn’t work, and even though she doesn’t ask me for money, she and her children eat from what I cook every day — breakfast, lunch, and supper — all from the money my husband gives me.
On top of that, I go to work and come home to meet an undone house. I still have to cook. The one time I asked her to cook, she went to report me to my mother-in-law, saying I was ordering her around the house. It’s a lot, and I can’t even explain everything.
My husband is neutral about the situation. He pays their fees and gives them money for school, but he never addresses the bigger issue. Their father used to be very responsible, so I don’t understand what suddenly went wrong for him to send her packing. I’ve asked my husband why the issue isn’t being resolved, and all he says is that they are “divorced forever.”
Now she’s living here with no intention of moving out, and the stress is constant. I have no breathing space. When I argue with my husband, she interrupts. When I correct my children, she interrupts and claims I’m accusing her of raising her kids poorly.
What should I do? This is getting out of hand, and I don’t feel relaxed in my own home anymore.
