In a generation where infidelity is gradually being considered as a norm and where men, in particular, see being faithful as an impossibility, it is refreshing to read stories of men who have stayed faithful to their partners for years.
They simply prove the fact that, being faithful is indeed a decision and a choice. One, an individual has to deliberately make, to ensure a successful marriage.
Enjoy the inspiring stories below of how these men met their partners and have remained faithful to them ever since.
Dave, my name is Samuel Appiah, and I want to share my story about how I met my Wife and being content with her alone. We have been married for 6 years now with 3 kids. When we married, I was 26 years, and my wife was 27 years. I was told I was too young to marry but Dave, I was a matured guy and people who know me always do not believe it when I tell them my age. They think I am older than my age.
Back to how I met my wife: I met my wife in my last Semester on Takoradi Polytechnic Campus. We were all in the Accounting A class but she was not my friend. I had a lady friend in B class whom I used to teach. I was teaching her friends too. I was very close with this lady friend, so people thought we were dating. This lady friend started coming to my hostel with my wife for me to teach them. I had decided to date since I was about completing school. I am a committed Christian and had prayed to God for a partner and God had revealed to me the stature of the ‘wife’ material, and my wife fit that criteria perfectly.
And so they kept coming every week for sessions and I started showing interest in her. I proposed to her and as usual, “let me think about it” was the answer. Unknown to me, my wife went to ask my lady friend if we were not dating because I had proposed to her. And she said she should accept, and that, I am a good guy. But then, my wife should leave me right after school because I did not have money to take care of her.
Dave, I was actually surviving on campus. It was difficult for me to pay my school fees. My lady friend used to help so she was right on that. My wife told me this after we got married. My wife accepted my proposal after a week.
Dave, I said to myself, that should a lady accept my proposal when I did not have anything – then she equally is a good lady that I can spend my life with. So when we completed school and on my return home, I went with my wife to greet my mother and sisters. Fast forward: I got a job right after National Service and I started planing to get married. We got married one and a half years after my employment.
My wife has been part of my success and I am content because she has all I want to find in a good wife. We have respect for one another, and also are interested in each other’s life. Dave, we do not keep secrets from each other.
What has also helped us is our Christian values and our closeness with/to God. I have not experienced what people normally say, that ‘they get tired of being with same person’. Dave, I always admire my wife. I look at her and I want to be intimate with her. I have never regretted marrying her.
Dave, my name is Benjamin Boateng and I have been married for five years with two kids.
My wife, I will say is the most charming woman on this earth. I met her on the campus of Institute of Professional Studies (IPS), now UPSA when we were only in level 100. We were offering the same program (BSc. Accounting). This was in the year 2006.
Dave, I must say that during this period my wife was the talk of the class: beauty of all beauties. Oh, and she carried herself so well too. Due to her personality, people perceived her to be the ‘too known’ type of girl (even myself). Some of the guys also felt intimidated approaching her.
So, one day I was late for lecture and on getting to the lecture hall I realized most of the guys were standing outside. I assumed the hall was full, only to get closer to see an empty seat next to her.
I told myself that day that I’ll not be intimidated by her, so I moved on to take that seat. I was met with a cold look but I ignored. Later during the day I mastered courage to speak to her to find out what I missed because I was late. That was the genesis of the relationship that led to marriage.
From day one of our relationship, we had to battle for the love we shared and the future we believed in. She had lots of proposals coming her way from much older men who were working – whiles we were still in school. The fun part of it is she’d come and tell me about it and we’ll laugh about it.
A greater number of our course mates thought our relationship was going to hit the rocks after school. We graduated in the year 2010. They were actually very surprised at the same time, how we finally managed to take our relationship to the next level in marriage, 5 years after graduation.
And Dave, on a lighter side, my best man who was my room mate in school and witnessed all what my wife and I had to go through to keep our relationship alive passed a comment when he was asked to call for the toast. And I quote
‘Ya’ br3 oooo’
My wife, since then has been the pillar success as she has demonstrated this after our marriage. In addition to all of these, she’s the prayer tower of the house, and sometimes I wonder where she gets the strength from.
I have been faithful to her ever since and I’ve vowed to remain faithful. It’s a personal vow I’ve made to God, and I intend to keep it as long as there’s breath in me.
If I have the opportunity to choose a wife in a second world, I’ll choose her over and over again.
My bed mate, my konkonsa partner, my co-pilot, my homemaker, I LOVE YOU AND FOREVER Will.
I’ve been married for 9 years and my wife is the ONLY woman I’ve been intimate with. This is not because I am married to a “perfect wife”. My wife is not perfect and neither am I. In all our imperfections, I resolved to remain faithful to my wife no matter what.
I agree with the saying that, ‘real men stay faithful.’ They don’t have time to look for other women because, they are too busy looking for new ways to love their own.
Being faithful doesn’t mean you don’t get tempted. As a decent young man, other women do come my way with all manner of’ temptations’ but Dave, the decision to cheat on your partner is never a ‘mistake’. It is always a CHOICE. You can’t ‘accidentally’ fall in bed with someone that you know isn’t your wife/husband.
Staying faithful in a marriage or relationship requires a deliberate and conscious effort to have self- control and respect for your partner.
Stay faithful to your partners during courtship because it makes staying faithful in your marriage very easy. There is a saying that “Marriage doesn’t cure lust. If it did, adultery wouldn’t exist”. Self-control is still a requirement.
I told my wife at the beginning of our marital journey that I want to be able to boldly declare on our 50th marriage anniversary that ‘I have been faithful to my wife for fifty (50) years’. Dave, God’s grace has been sufficient and it’s been 9 years and still counting.
So David, please don’t be scared because there are a lot of faithful men out there busily looking for new ways to make their homes better. – Patrick
