I am very troubled. I reported my husband’s infidelity to our Head Pastor because I know he respects his views a lot. Secondly, the pastor loves our family. He’s always calling to check on us. And due to that, my husband likes him too.
My husband is very rich, and he supports the church financially. One of the reasons why I thought it wise to involve our spiritual father in our marital issues.
We were arguing on Monday, after he had returned home very late, and had the scent of a feminine cologne on his body.
A few weeks before that too, I had found a lady’s pantie in one of his trouser pockets, while doing his laundry.
I had always had my suspicions but because I had no proof, and also, he had tried very well to keep his outside deeds hidden from me, I couldn’t accuse him of any wrongdoing.
During Monday’s argument, he mentioned, even our ‘Papa’ (the head pastor and spiritual father) told him he had had his own fair share of affairs too when the going got tough.
My husband now wants me to leave him alone to ‘be a man’ since he wouldn’t be the first to be cheating on his wife.
I contacted Papa to confirm what my husband said about him, and he told me not to take my husband’s words seriously, and that, he will eventually come along and change.
Pastor told me most men look outside but grow out of it after they have had enough fun.
And so, I shouldn’t worry myself, if he’s providing for me and the family. I should just be praying for him. I honestly do not know which of the two I feel disappointed in.
Dave, I work. I earn a decent salary. I make not less than $3,000 a month. I can take very good care of our two kids, with or without my husband’s help. In this Accra live-by-plan, I can survive on my own if I plan this through.
I have made a decision to stop having sex with my husband from today. I never imagined getting married and divorcing. The thought of it still scares me, but Dave, I do not see myself staying in a marriage that messes with my head.
The shocking part is when my pastor confirmed a statement my husband had claimed he (pastor) had said to him, that ‘a lot of women have eyes for my hubby because he is rich… And that, I shouldn’t give room for someone else to reap the fruits of my labour.’
My pastor resounded that caution to me.
