Dear Dave: I met his wife

The guy I am with is married. I did not know he was. When I accepted his proposal to want to date him, he had no wedding ring on. I asked about his relationship status and he told me it was complicated.

Before accepting to be his girlfriend, I made him explain the ‘complicated relationship’, and he said ‘she’s just a baby mama wanting his attention’.
A few days ago, I called to spend time with him but he said he wasn’t feeling well, and so needed time for himself.

I suggested preparing soup for him but he declined. Something he rarely did. He loves my food, especially my soups.

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I ignored his decline for a meet and went to his house. He was not home but the lights were on in the living room. I knocked and a woman opened the door. I insisted on waiting for my guy when she told me he wasn’t in.

I noticed something I hadn’t seen in the living room before. A picture of him and his wife and the kids. That picture had never been in that living room until that day.
That got me thinking, and so I asked who she was and she introduced herself as his wife of four years. She asked who I was and I told her his girlfriend of two years.

Dave, all I knew was his baby momma and his two kids reside in Accra, while he worked in Kumasi. He visited them twice every month, on weekends. I decided to leave after that awkward introduction, however, she insisted I waited for him.

She packed her travelling bag and left the house. It was around 8:20 pm.
My guy returned from wherever, and I told him what had happened, and he started shouting at me.

He is blaming me for causing friction between us. One thing he said that hurt my feelings was, I shouldn’t be blaming him for lying to me because he did not.

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It was his wife he lied to, not me. And that, he loves me. He doesn’t love his wife. He wants me instead.

I am pregnant for him. I don’t know what to do.

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