My husband wants a divorce. I am not sure I am ready to grant him that, because I love him very much. What do I do?
He laid his hands on me. This was actually his first time of overly losing his temper and physically abusing me. He has apologized and I have forgiven him because he’s not a bad person. He just lost his temper in a heated argument.
My brother called me a day after my husband beat me, because I called in sick at work, and he was at my office to visit me. I didn’t want him to see the bruises on my face, and so I tried talking him out of coming over to my place. He came anyway and saw what had been done to me.
He called our other brother and he also left work to my house. I told them what had happened, and they decided to wait for my husband at home.
He beat me because I snooped on his phone, and also called him a ‘fool’ for trying to flirt with one of his new interns in their text exchanges. I suspected him to be engaging in something untoward, and I was right. There was actually a text from him, asking the lady,
“So, how big are your breasts? What pantie size do you wear? What’s your bra size? What turns you on? What do you look like naked? Which are your favourite positions? Do you sleep naked or clothed? What’s your favourite pantie colour?” etc. And, I have snapshots as proof.
My husband claimed he was doing nothing wrong chatting with her, and that, I had no right touching his phone.
He returned home from work in the evening, and my siblings asked me to take my daughter to the bedroom as they talked with my husband. Dave, they beat him up mercilessly.
This is not what I wanted, because my brothers are married and are very responsible, and were to understand that couples sometimes have their share of misunderstandings.
My husband hasn’t eaten my food or talked to me in a month. He’s filed for divorce. I’ve asked my brothers to apologise to him but they’re rather threatening to beat him up again if they see him anywhere. I don’t know who to be mad at this moment.
I have forgiven my husband, why is he walking out on our family because of what my brothers did?
And Dave, they used to be very cool in-laws.
I cannot understand the sudden change. Do I keep apologizing or I should grant him his request for a divorce? I really love my husband, and our daughter loves us together as a family. Why throw this away?
