My husband is planning on setting one of his close friends up. They’ve suddenly developed hatred for each other, and nothing anyone does or says to get them to settle their differences is working. This friend is my good friend too.
We still click and are close. But unfortunately, my husband is expecting me to end my friendship with him, simply because he is no longer in good terms with him.
Would it be wrong to caution this friend ahead of time before whatever my husband and his crew are plotting against him takes effect? Would that be an act of betrayal should I pick a side? Because I am trying not to come between their differences, however, I feel my husband, as usual, maybe overreacting and unreasonable.
He is the type that wants everything for himself or wants things to always go his way.
I find him to be very selfish most times. I love my husband, don’t get me wrong. He is the father of my children and he tries his very best for us. I do appreciate him for that.
But I have stayed with this man for years and I know how manipulative and greedy he can be. He is very good at turning people against people. He’s always watching out for only his best interest.
He lies a lot, and would only be loyal to people he is either taking advantage of or benefiting one way or the other from.
Though I am in love with him and have never loved anyone else but him, I do not trust him. I feel he is being unfair to this friend of ours. I have in the past always kept quiet any time he picked an unnecessary fight with someone we both knew. I have even chosen to end friendships with some of those very good friends because as his wife, I had to indirectly take his side.
I don’t want to do that this time. Because I have listened to both parties, talked to third parties who are also involved in the matter, and my husband is the one creating this unnecessary tension and misunderstanding.
He stands to gain something he has not merited. An amount of money that is not due to him, but wants for himself. From all indications, our friend deserves this settlement. And I want to do the right thing by giving him the heads up.
Would I be doing the right thing by siding with the right person and helping him out?
