No matter your age or sense of maturity you think you possess as a woman, there are times when you have felt very uncomfortable by another some other woman in your man’s life.
We don’t only mean the girl you really wish did not exist in this life, but other ladies who share the attention of your man with you.
Knowing how jealous women can get, it is only right to look at ways and means of handling brewing conflict with these individuals and try not to do anything that ends up with you losing your relationship or much worst, getting arrested.
The women in your man’s life could be his mom, sister, ex, homegirl, work wife or of course the lady who desperately wants him.
You first need to remember that, your partner had a life before you met. This life included these women and hence your discomfort with their presence will take a lot more than your sad face to deal with.
His Mother
A mother is often the biggest threat and the hardest person to please. She raised her son, watched him grow and sometimes it is extremely difficult to watch him go. This is typically a lot harder for women who have an only son. It is very easy to spin out and get furious at your partner’s mother for always being a particular way, however, it is even more essential to understand her personality.
Her attitude towards your relationship with her son has more to do with who she is as a mother than what she is currently doing to you. She would want to protect her son from any form of harm and you are definitely one in her sight.
You only need to give her space and allow her to retain her position in her son’s life. If and when things get unbearable, simply tell your man; “Look, I understand you’re close to your mother. I don’t want to take that away from you. How can you also make me feel like I’m important?” Make him a part of the problem-solving process.
His Female Friends
The childhood friends (homegirls) and best friends are another sects of ladies who hold on so strong to your man and sometimes make you absolutely furious. These are the ones who get flirtatious in your presence and pretend nothing wrong happened. You are definitely allowed to feel that way, but like with his mother, your pouts do very little.
When you feel your man is going above and beyond what you expect he should be doing for a female friend, you only need to ask him, “How would you feel if John, James or Samuel did same for me?”. This would immediately draw your man’s attention and register your displeasure. A partner who respects you would immediately adjust his way of doing things to ensure peace reigns at all times.
His Work Wife
The work wife who tends to be his confidant away from home is another person who makes your blood boil. But this is not a reason to run crazy and be crazy. This is the person he spends a greater part of his day with. Remember, whatever you see in your partner, a ton of other ladies see that and even more.
It is best you remain clam and get to know these work wives. You are most likely to find out your partner had a hard day at work from this work wife than from your man. It is not unheard of for the work wife to have a crush on your man, but remember you bear the ring and his proclaimed love and affection. Remaining level headed and not jumping into the gutters to start a street fight always puts you ahead. You should get clear with your partner on boundaries so it’s apparent when a line is crossed.
Communication is the key to solving half of your problems with other women. It is always essential for you as a woman to get all your facts right before you jump to conclusions.
Sometimes your man may not see a woman as a threat like you do. It is your responsibility to draw his attention to what you believe is happening and then he can walk away before things get too bad. Arguing and fighting everyone your man encounters only frustrates him and makes him want them even more.
