My husband left our matrimonial home to be with the love of his life. We had been married for five years, and he just left. Our only child was seven months old when he took that decision. He did not file for divorce, neither did I.
This month would be exactly three years since he left us for the other woman. He made his family aware he did not love me any more. I insisted he didn’t inform my parents, because I couldn’t imagine their heartbreak. They were very happy for us when we got married. Divorce wasn’t an option for me then. I kept quiet about his moving out because I felt, he would come to his senses eventually.
He has come to his senses alright and wants to return home to us. One and a half years after he had moved out, I met this guy. He is four years younger than me. I am 35. We became very close friends and developed feelings for each other. He’s an engineer by profession, and for whatever reason, is very much in love with me.
Because I am not legally divorced, we have not had sex yet, but we kiss and cuddle. This is a decision we both agreed on. That’s pretty much that – when it comes to our definition of intimacy. I have fallen in love with him too.
My daughter calls him ‘Daddy’ and he has been footing all of our bills, though I work. He claims we are his responsibility, and has taken over responsibility of us as if we are his own to keep. He has bonded with us and is planning on marrying me next year.
We’ve started talking about me filing for divorce in January 2020, in order to make our dreams a reality. He has found me a lawyer and will be paying for her services.
My husband called me two days after my guy and I had discussed divorcing him, to want to start all over again with me. His parents have called for a meeting with mine and would want to settle the issue between us.
No one knows about this young man I am seeing. I don’t think I love my husband any longer. I am scared of divorce too because I hear it can be a messy and a long process. My new guy wants me not to take a dime from my husband in the divorce process. He says he will be even cool if hubby refuses to take responsibility for his child. He is willing to father the baby and provide for us.
Dave, this guy is for real. I see how he treats us. I see how he makes time for us. He took us to London last year for the holidays. In fact, since we started feeling like lovers, he’s practically been involved in our lives. He has his own four-bedroom house, which we have spent days sleeping over.
He cooks for us, he plays with my child. His time for us is what has made me notice him in my life. I am a very shy type so I do not know how to inform me and hubby’s family about my decision to want to opt-out of the marriage. I am not in love with my husband anymore.
And Dave, I am not mad at him. He had a choice and made it three years ago. I did not want to be the reason for an unhappy man to be staying married to me. In fact, I had read similar stories on your Facebook, of men leaving their wives for no reason.
And though I never believed it could happen to me, it did. I was willing to accept my fate and move on. I have moved on in my heart. My problem is, how to tell both families at the meeting. Because my parents are going to ask me if I have met someone new. I don’t want to talk about my guy until the divorce is finalized.
We are to travel to Dubai for the holidays on Thursday. The family meeting is on Saturday, I don’t know what to decide on at this moment.
