I proposed marriage to the love of my life yesterday. We’ve been dating for three years, and I feel it’s time to settle down with her. I’ve known and been with women, but this particular lady is rare. I have never seen her type in anyone I’ve known.
She told me she loves me, but would want to give me a week to decide on the only condition she’d be willing to say ‘yes’ to my proposal:
Monogamy!
Dave, I know myself. I love women. I love sex, and I enjoy sex with my lady. However, there is another wild and kinky sexual side of me that I would never want to engage in with my love. She’s too innocent for such.
And I don’t think she’d even do it if I brought it up. So I pay a side-piece for that kind of fun and do it discreetly.
My woman does not know I keep another lady, strictly for crazy sex. If she knew, she would end everything between us, and I do not want to lose her. She’s a keeper… The one!
I don’t know how to respond to her request. I will not be able to sleep with just her and be content. I need that extra side piece to balance the equation.
That side piece is a no-strings-attached affair, nothing more, nothing less.
If I say ‘yes’ to my lady’s request, I would be lying to her. If I say ‘no’, she would definitely end things between us. I can’t afford to lose a good woman.
My brother married his wife and tried monogamy for eight years, and had to look outside marriage eventually, for extra fun.
Monogamy is just not me. I want to marry my sweetheart too. Should I lie to her to settle down and go on with my life as I have already been doing cautiously?
I know it’s wrong, but this is me opening up right now.
