I have been involved with a young woman on the side since 2023. She was 24 when we met and is now 26. From the beginning, she knew I was married, but she still became deeply involved with me. She was easygoing, understanding, and not demanding. All she wanted was my time and affection, which I gave willingly.
I supported her financially. I paid for her schooling and rented a comfortable, fully furnished apartment for her last year. We spent a lot of time together there, cooking, watching movies, and being intimate. I am in my late 40s, and being with her made me feel young, wanted, and happy. Everything with her felt genuine, and I did a lot to keep her happy because I wanted her with me long term.
I truly care about her and want to see her grow. I even do not mind having children with her because I believe she is worth it.
Recently, however, she has started talking about marriage. Not that she wants me to marry her, but she now says she wants to be free to meet a man who can marry her. She suddenly has a problem with the fact that I am married and says what we are doing is wrong. This is confusing because just about five weeks ago, she was telling me she wanted to be with me forever and have children with me.
For the past two weeks, we have been arguing. She says she would not be happy if someone did this to her future husband and believes we should stop seeing each other. I suspect she may have met someone else, because this change feels sudden.
What I do not understand is that she lacks nothing, and I am still willing to support her and even have children with her. My wife is well taken care of, and I manage my responsibilities. Yet this young woman is the one who brings me the most happiness.
I am genuinely confused about what is going on. I feel something has changed, and I do not know how to handle it. Brothers, I need advice on how to proceed.
