I’m currently pregnant for a Ghanaian man I’m dating. He’s my boyfriend, but he doesn’t have what it takes to be a responsible father right now. He has no stable job and can’t provide real comfort for me or the baby. The pregnancy is three months old. He asked me to keep it, and I agreed without thinking. But after reflecting, I feel I may have made a mistake.
There’s also another man I dated briefly before he travelled in 2020. We didn’t do much together before he left, though we were intimate a few times. When he travelled, he barely kept in touch. I complained, and he got angry and broke up with me. Two weeks ago, he reached out. He said he’s coming to Ghana this year and wants us to give our relationship another chance. He’ll be here around the 20th.
Since we started talking again, I’ve felt differently about my pregnancy and my current boyfriend. I feel I deserve better. I want to raise my children in a stable home and give them a bright future. At first, I thought I was overthinking, but now I feel strongly that keeping this pregnancy may not be the right choice for me.
The man abroad sounds promising and says he genuinely wants to try again. He explained that when he travelled, the pressure of COVID made him withdraw and ask for a breakup so he could focus. I understand him now, and part of me wants to give him another chance. This is my life too. I want more than just children — I want peace, comfort, and financial stability.
My current boyfriend is trying his best. Since I told him I was pregnant, he gives me GHC 350 every week and extra whenever I ask. But that doesn’t mean he can provide long-term stability. Meanwhile, the man abroad sent me $100 just because I mentioned I was hungry. That’s almost what my current boyfriend gives me in a month.
I’m torn. My boyfriend wants to marry me after I give birth, and he’s genuinely trying. But I feel I want more for myself and my future.
