I’m really worried. I’ve never been this confused before. It’s about my husband. We married last year, after dating for two years.
Somewhere in the middle of our relationship, he confided in me that he was addicted to mastur*ating. At first, I thought it was an excuse for more intimacy, but I eventually realised he was telling the truth. I tried to help him. I gave myself to him more often, thinking it would reduce the urge, but it still continued.
We didn’t live together while dating, so I didn’t know how serious it was. He later claimed he was improving because of the measures we put in place together. I honestly believed things would change once we got married since I would be with him all the time. But what I’m seeing now is even worse.
You won’t believe it. I make myself available to him always. No matter where I am, if he calls, I try to come home for intimacy. We’re doing online therapy, reading books together, and trying different strategies, but nothing seems to be working.
We can be intimate from 9pm to 11pm, and he will still wake up around 3am to sneak into the bathroom to mastur*ate while I’m right there. It’s like he doesn’t desire me. I’ve caught him several times hiding just to do it. This is someone who does it three, four, sometimes even five times a day. We can be sitting together, and he will suddenly get up as if he’s going to fix something, only for me to find him doing it.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m already exhausted in this marriage. Can anyone suggest any real solution or help?
