Relationships are beautiful and fun in the beginning. Partners live to please each other and want nothing but the best for the young relationship. However, as time goes on the once-bustling relationship begins to dwindle and get boring. This should not be the situation.
The truth is, the relationship may never return to how it was in the beginning. Both you and partner have evolved and matured in your own ways over the period of time you have been together, but this must not affect how you relate.
Being spontaneous keeps the relationship unpredictable and keeps a sense of expectation in the relationship. After a while of switching things up and leaving both your comfort zones, you awaken the love and give room for new experiences together.
Let us explore some of the ways to keep the relationship spontaneous.
1.Go on an unplanned trip together
One of the easiest ways to introduce some fun and spontaneity into your relationship is to try neutral grounds. Changing the scenery completely and trying something new out there together is an opportunity to bring you two closer together.
Plan a trip to a place you both have never been before and do new things together. This will help you create new memories together and also bring new romantic feelings back because you and your partner are going to explore something new together.
2. Listen Carefully
Sometimes listening is the best way to understand your partner. When you listen, you hear and understand the tiny little things that matter to your partner.
People often throw subtle hints in conversations. You are most likely to pick up a sense of insecurity, desire or hurt simply by listening.
Imagine bringing your partner something as little as a cupcake because you heard her mention craving cake just as you left for work. These little things keep couples on their toes.
3. Break routines
When couples live and cohabitate over a long period of time, there is the definition of chores and roles in the home. Routines are created and the element of surprise that keeps the relationship on edge is lost.
We usually have a rule where if one cooks, the other cleans. If you switch those roles around in the house, it can add spontaneity because your partner won’t be expecting it and view it as a sweet gesture.
Our aim here is to introduce unpredictability and something as little as an unexpected cleaning or washing will please your partner so much. It heightens the intensity and excitement in a relationship.
4. Be open to change
Many a time, the problem isn’t anything but yourself. Everyone has a different understanding of how things should be and the way they should be done.
Sometimes you just have to step outside of your comfort zone or think differently to make the spark come alive again. Allow yourself to get into your partners understanding of situations and events.
This way you get to understand each other better and relate much better. If you do not enjoy watching a particular genre of movies, give it a try one movie night with your partner.
This act will be highly unexpected by your partner and give him or her a new sense of love and appreciation for your willingness.
5. Change the sex routine.
To start with, there should be no routine for sex. Never Ever schedule your sex life. Usually, the same kind of moves and styles pop up during sex with your partner, after awhile.
Just talking with your partner about what you like can change things significantly. This is the time to allow yourself to be vulnerable with your partner and cross new territories when it comes to your sex lives.
No matter how long you have been with your partner, there should always be an element of surprise in your love life. It’s a great way to keep your partner on their toes and for the both of you to not get bored with each other.
